Little Dhairya was always involved in a fight with others. He
would answer back rudely and seeked revenge. Thus, he would always
end up hurting someone or the other. Almost everyone had complaints
against him. Many a time, Dhairya's father would explain to him
about not behaving in this manner. However, Dhairya would always
escape with the excuse, "Is this called hurting others? I had no
One day his father gave him a bag full of nails
and said, "Dhairya, from today onwards every time you hurt someone,
take a nail from this bag and knock it into the piece of wood."
Dhairya curiously asked, "What will happen by doing this?" To this,
his father replied, "You will experience it for yourself."
The next day, Dhairya was teasing his sister by calling her,
"Shorty… Shorty…" At the sound of this, his father beckoned
Dhairya and said, "Son, teasing others is a way of hurting them."
"Is that so!" asked Dhairya in astonishment. He instantly went and
hammered a nail into the wood.
One day, Dhairya's friend picked up his new pen to write without
asking for his permission. This upset Dhairya so much that he threw
his friend's pencil box out of the window. When Dhairya's teacher
complained to his father about it, his father once again explained
to him that, "You have hurt your friend by doing this."
Dhairya did not like the teacher complaining to his father at
all and he began to criticize his teacher within. Dhairya's father
understood that he was thinking negative about his teacher, so he
immediately pointed it out to Dhairya saying, "Thinking negative
about others is equivalent to hurting them". That day, Dhairya
hammered two nails into the wood. In this way, whenever Dhairya
would lie, take others' things despite the fact that he had his
own, take pride in his abilities, feel jealous or compete with
others, his father would promptly alert him. Dhairya would always
obey his father and knock nails into the wood every time.
Eventually, he began to recognize the different ways in which
others would feel hurt by him. As he increasingly realized this,
the instances in which others were hurt by him started to gradually
decrease. In any case, by now he was weary of hammering nails into
the piece of wood. The day soon arrived when he completely stopped
hurting others. Dhairya was very happy and his father was also very
He said to his father, "Pappa, now I do not hurt anybody, so
what should I do with this piece of wood?" His father very lovingly
replied, "Now pull out all the nails from the piece of wood".
Dhairya could not understand why his father was making him go
through this exercise, and what he wanted Dhairya to learn.
Nevertheless, Dhairya continued to do as his father told him. After
pulling out all the nails, he went to show his father the piece of
wood, "Pappa, look I've pulled out all the nails". His father said,
"Good, but did you notice all the holes in the piece wood? Now, if
you want to fill the holes and make the wood as good as it was
before, what will you do?" Dhairya replied, "I would have to
painstakingly fill each and every hole with sawdust and glue." His
father grabbed the opportunity to say, "Precisely, in the same way,
when we happen to hurt others, we give them wounds which do not
heal by themselves quickly."
Dhairya realized that up to now, he had wounded a lot of people!
So he asked his father, "Pappa, there must be some solution to
this, isn't there?"
His father replied, "Pratikraman; by heartily asking for
forgiveness, all wounds get healed."
Dhairya understood how risky it is to hurt others and he decided
from that day onwards never to hurt anybody.
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Should We Hurt Others?